So much to share. Where to begin? Here it goes, in no particular order.
We are now eating grass-fed beef and pastured pork and chicken. Will be trying lamb soon..
Recently discovered The Green Polkadot Box. Think BJ's or Sam's but online. Their big thing is they do not carry a single item with GMO's.
Can't tell you enough about how much I love The Green Polkadot Box. Great prices, I can shop from home, while the baby sleeps, I can read ingredients, etc. Let's not forget that I don't drive and this way my poor husband doesn't have to suffer through his crunchy wife's analyzing of every single item that goes in the cart. Now that there are food sensitivities in our family and that I insist on avoiding GMO's there is a lot of reading going on when I shop.
had gotten rid of table sugar. We were only using honey and maple syrup and we were getting used to smaller quantities. All that went out the window when I learned K is sensitive to both of those. Table sugar is ok but honey and maple syrup are not. What gives? Food sensitivities... What a journey...
Finally got us our first slow cooker two weeks ago. Totally in love! Dinner time is a hard time of day for K. Picture a mom with two kids, one hungry, one crying. It wasn't pretty. Now I get dinner going in the slow cooker after K's morning nap, when she is happy and playing independently for a while, and come 6:00 p.m. all we need to do is make plates.
Got an eight-quart slow cooker, so we have leftovers, which means lunch for the next day. Yummy and convenient.
Was making coconut milk at home for a while. Not doing that anymore because K is sensitive to it. Yes, she is sensitive to the world it seems!
There are so many recipes I want to try but that is on hold until we finish getting answers about K's food sensitivities. I have learned the hard way that it just isn't worth it to try new foods right now.
I have stopped using the microwave. We still own one; it just isn't used much. A lot of nutrients are lost when food is warmed up in the microwave and we have found that food tastes better if reheated in the toaster oven, so we are feeling like it is worth it to wait ten minutes for our food to be warm.
Karina is in cloth diapers, just as Arianna was. We started earlier this time, at two months. My plan was to start from day one, but she was tiny at birth and I was to avoid stairs for the first week or so. I decided to spare those helping me the extra laundry.
She is in Rumperooz pocket diapers and prefolds.
I am curious about essential oils and alternative remedies for colds and things like that but haven't gone up that learning curve yet.
Tips? I am all ears!
Sunday, February 16, 2014
Very Overdue Update
So, way back when... I was pregnant with our second child and I was slowly getting crunchier, as we like to call it around here.
Fastforward to June 2013... Karina Elise was born on June 23, 2013. She weighed 6 lb 8 oz and was 20.5 inches tall. She was born at home. Yes, it was planned. Yes, we we were safe and accompanied by very experienced midwives. It was a beautiful experience, intense as every birth is. She took a while to join us Earthside. She was born at exactly 41 weeks. That being said, when she was ready to join us, there was no stopping her! We went for a walk at 12:30 p.m. and at 5:18 p.m. we had a baby! It all happened so fast my plans for a water birth went out the window.
Fastforward to today... Karina is almost eight months. She is a happy child. She squeals anytime she sees or hears her sister. Arianna loves her to pieces.
Karina has food sensitivities. That will be a whole other post. Food sensitivities, for me, have been a nightmare and a blessing in HUGE disguise. More on that another time.
Arianna is six years old. She is enjoying kinder garden. She is about to begin violin lessons. She is enjoying preparing salads for us, making her school lunch, among other cute and helpful things. Her favorite topic is "baby mustard." If you're reading my blog, you are likely a parent and you know what I'm talking about!
More later, maybe?!
Friday, November 2, 2012
We have a tiny baby and a very excited, not so tiny baby!
We had an ultrasound yesterday. Let's stop there for a sec! If you find yourself about to get an ultrasound during the first trimester of pregnancy, request a transvaginal ultrasound, really. You'll have to drink a lot of water for an abdominal ultrasound. You'll be so uncomfortable it will hurt, only to be told the baby is too small, so you need a transvaginal ultrasound after all.
So, the ultrasound... Baby was measuring seven weeks, two days, giving us a due date of June 18th. Heart rate was 132 beats per minute, so right on track.
Ari got to see the baby on the screen and the tech gave her a photo. She is one thrilled, happy big sister! My favorite part was when the tech handed her the photo and she was so happy she had watery eyes. Priceless.
I'm thinking I'm carrying a boy. Ari is hoping for a girl. For what it's worth, I was right last time! Let's see what we learn come mid January! In the meantime, I am enjoying Ari's happiness and her many questions. And I am feeling grateful for the lack of morning sickness this time around. I am super tired, but other than that, I feel great, especially when I crave chicken and my sweet husband runs out to pick up chicken at 9:30 p.m.! Poor guy!
Oh, and it goes without saying that I am thrilled to have another little one on the way after all the rethinking, trying, hoping and waiting!
Friday, October 26, 2012
I did love that movie, way back when... Middle school, I think. But, the big news... Baby #2 is on the way! We're due on Father's Day! We are not sharing yet, so nothing on Facebook, please.Haven't told Ari yet. Trying to figure out when and how to tell her. She has been waiting and hoping, so I'd love to make it a special moment, for both of us. Ideas welcomed!
S
Tuesday, October 9, 2012
Our baby girl is five! She is so not a baby anymore. But she will forever be my baby!We celebrated her much anticipated big day with six school friends, the grandparents and other relatives. There were water balloons, bubbles, and little girls insisting on playing dress up.am loving this age. Daddy says it really does get better and better.We are enjoying her growing sense of humor. We are enjoying card games lately. Her current favorite is Crazy Eights. She loves shuffling so she can get a hold of the 'kings.' She likes to go first and for Daddy to go after her. Fine by me!First post on the Air. Let's see how I did with formatting. I'm not the geeky one around here!
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Tuesday, June 12, 2012
Update on our trying to conceive adventure...
So, no baby yet, last I knew. On the upside, I finally have answers.
We did cycle day 3 blood work in April. Basically, on day three of your cycle, blood is drawn to determine whether or not your body has appropriate levels of certain hormones, such as estrogen. My blood work was normal, perfect, in fact.
We also did an HSG. The goal of this test is to find out if a fallopian tube is blocked. Again, normal. Both tubes were clear.
Seeing as how both tests came back normal I was told I should wait it out another few months. I could start taking a medicine that would support/cause ovulation. I decided against it for a number of reasons.
I know my body. I have noticed specific symptoms for a while now. I felt that all these symptoms should be addressed as a whole. I didn't know what exactly I needed, but, somehow, I knew there must be something else. Picture a puzzle. You know you're missing some pieces. You just don't know what they look like. That is how I felt.
So, I decided to get some advice, a second opinion. I met with a homebirth midwife. I knew she would not be able to help me directly, but I knew she would know who could. She recommended a hospital-based midwife and a Chinese medicine specialist.
So I did my research, braced myself for the expenses, and began scheduling appointments.
Must speed it up because it's bedtime! Now the crunchy mama drinks yucky cups of Chinese herbs twice a day! Did I ever mention that I am simply not a tea person. Every tea is beyond yucky to me, even chocolate and ginger, which I love! But, there you have it. I gagged the first few days, but I am used to it now.
I did a few sessions of acupuncture, but I am currently taking a break. I don't understand exactly how it would help and it is pricy. So I am focusing on the herbs and on traditional medicine.
I met with the hospital-based midwife. After asking me a few questions, she was fairly certain that my progesterone level post-ovulation is low. Basically, after you ovulate, your progesterone level rises. You can do a blood test four to six days post-ovulation. Ideally, you're about 18. If your level is lower you start a progesterone supplement.
Guess what? Yours truly is at SIX. We have tested the past two cycles. 7.2 last cycle and 6.4 this cycle.
Now, here is where I get incredibly frustrated. I shared a detailed list of symptoms with my old care provider. I specifically asked if having a short, light period means anything. She could have run the progesterone blood work last November.
Currently, I am allowing myself some time to feel the frustration so I can move on. I am grateful for this new midwife. I am grateful that I have answers and that there is something I can do. I am trying not to think about the possibility that, perhaps, I have conceived a number of times and the baby didn't implant because my progesterone level was low and the endometrium (uterine lining) was too thin.
I am ok with waiting. I really am. I have been thinking about another baby for 2.5 years now, in fact. But I do feel the need to get answers and keep moving, rather than doing nothing. Also, now it's not just about me. Ari really wants a sibling. She daydreams of having a sibling often. She sees families with two kids, talks about how she wants to be a big sister, take care of the baby, etc., etc.
At any rate, why am I sharing this? I am a very private person. But I opted to share my story because maybe it will help someone out there. Whether you are trying to conceive, you are ill, or whatever it is, go with your gut. If you don't feel that your provider is thorough, don't let the sense of loyalty stop you. Get a second opinion. I love how sweet, friendly and available my former provider is. But, clearly, that isn't enough. This is simply not her specialty. She is great at other things.
Oh, one more thing… Get yourself a support network. If you have a friend who is going through the same thing, great. If you don't, find forums/message boards. You will get emotional support and you will learn a lot. You will be better able to advocate for yourself if you know what questions to ask your provider.
Here is to hoping that Ari's sibling-to-be joins our family soon!
We did cycle day 3 blood work in April. Basically, on day three of your cycle, blood is drawn to determine whether or not your body has appropriate levels of certain hormones, such as estrogen. My blood work was normal, perfect, in fact.
We also did an HSG. The goal of this test is to find out if a fallopian tube is blocked. Again, normal. Both tubes were clear.
Seeing as how both tests came back normal I was told I should wait it out another few months. I could start taking a medicine that would support/cause ovulation. I decided against it for a number of reasons.
I know my body. I have noticed specific symptoms for a while now. I felt that all these symptoms should be addressed as a whole. I didn't know what exactly I needed, but, somehow, I knew there must be something else. Picture a puzzle. You know you're missing some pieces. You just don't know what they look like. That is how I felt.
So, I decided to get some advice, a second opinion. I met with a homebirth midwife. I knew she would not be able to help me directly, but I knew she would know who could. She recommended a hospital-based midwife and a Chinese medicine specialist.
So I did my research, braced myself for the expenses, and began scheduling appointments.
Must speed it up because it's bedtime! Now the crunchy mama drinks yucky cups of Chinese herbs twice a day! Did I ever mention that I am simply not a tea person. Every tea is beyond yucky to me, even chocolate and ginger, which I love! But, there you have it. I gagged the first few days, but I am used to it now.
I did a few sessions of acupuncture, but I am currently taking a break. I don't understand exactly how it would help and it is pricy. So I am focusing on the herbs and on traditional medicine.
I met with the hospital-based midwife. After asking me a few questions, she was fairly certain that my progesterone level post-ovulation is low. Basically, after you ovulate, your progesterone level rises. You can do a blood test four to six days post-ovulation. Ideally, you're about 18. If your level is lower you start a progesterone supplement.
Guess what? Yours truly is at SIX. We have tested the past two cycles. 7.2 last cycle and 6.4 this cycle.
Now, here is where I get incredibly frustrated. I shared a detailed list of symptoms with my old care provider. I specifically asked if having a short, light period means anything. She could have run the progesterone blood work last November.
Currently, I am allowing myself some time to feel the frustration so I can move on. I am grateful for this new midwife. I am grateful that I have answers and that there is something I can do. I am trying not to think about the possibility that, perhaps, I have conceived a number of times and the baby didn't implant because my progesterone level was low and the endometrium (uterine lining) was too thin.
I am ok with waiting. I really am. I have been thinking about another baby for 2.5 years now, in fact. But I do feel the need to get answers and keep moving, rather than doing nothing. Also, now it's not just about me. Ari really wants a sibling. She daydreams of having a sibling often. She sees families with two kids, talks about how she wants to be a big sister, take care of the baby, etc., etc.
At any rate, why am I sharing this? I am a very private person. But I opted to share my story because maybe it will help someone out there. Whether you are trying to conceive, you are ill, or whatever it is, go with your gut. If you don't feel that your provider is thorough, don't let the sense of loyalty stop you. Get a second opinion. I love how sweet, friendly and available my former provider is. But, clearly, that isn't enough. This is simply not her specialty. She is great at other things.
Oh, one more thing… Get yourself a support network. If you have a friend who is going through the same thing, great. If you don't, find forums/message boards. You will get emotional support and you will learn a lot. You will be better able to advocate for yourself if you know what questions to ask your provider.
Here is to hoping that Ari's sibling-to-be joins our family soon!
Mother's Day 2012
My last post was two months ago. Oops!
Making up for lost time. Here it goes!
Mother's Day this year was very low key but wonderful and beautiful. Ari understood what it was about and she had a lot of fun making plans with her dad. It was adorable!
The day before Mother's Day they went grocery shopping and came back with flowers. The funny thing is that daddy gets me flowers every now and then, a handful of them. He told Ari she could choose the flowers. And that she did! She picked a bouquet of 2 dozen flowers! You may want to rethink that next time, Daddy!
We had the flowers for three weeks. We would look at them almost every day. She would remember mother's day, would give me hugs, tell me how much she loves me, and how nice it was to pick out flowers for me.
On Mother's Day we went for a family bike ride.
As I said above, simple but definitely worth remembering. Some day, years from now, I'll be rereading old posts and I'll probably cry!
As for Father's Day, we are seeing friends we haven't seen in ages, we're doing a whale watch and we'll enjoy some pool time. Oh, and Daddy is very much enjoying his early present – a PS3. My husband is such a workaholic I argue in favor of games, contrary to what most women say they do.
More posts coming!
Making up for lost time. Here it goes!
Mother's Day this year was very low key but wonderful and beautiful. Ari understood what it was about and she had a lot of fun making plans with her dad. It was adorable!
The day before Mother's Day they went grocery shopping and came back with flowers. The funny thing is that daddy gets me flowers every now and then, a handful of them. He told Ari she could choose the flowers. And that she did! She picked a bouquet of 2 dozen flowers! You may want to rethink that next time, Daddy!
We had the flowers for three weeks. We would look at them almost every day. She would remember mother's day, would give me hugs, tell me how much she loves me, and how nice it was to pick out flowers for me.
On Mother's Day we went for a family bike ride.
As I said above, simple but definitely worth remembering. Some day, years from now, I'll be rereading old posts and I'll probably cry!
As for Father's Day, we are seeing friends we haven't seen in ages, we're doing a whale watch and we'll enjoy some pool time. Oh, and Daddy is very much enjoying his early present – a PS3. My husband is such a workaholic I argue in favor of games, contrary to what most women say they do.
More posts coming!
Thursday, April 5, 2012
Update on us...
Ari continues to say the funniest things! Example: the other day she told her dad he couldn't put her to bed because he doesn't have boobies! I thought her statement was hilarious because she hasn't nursed before bed in a very long time now, years, in fact.
Speaking of nursing, shh, you didn't hear it from me, but I think she may have actually finished weaning herself. I think she hasn't nursed in over a week.
Ari started swimming lessons last December. She has had nine or ten lessons at this point. She loves her lessons, is jumping in the pool, and is starting to swim short distances. She is very proud of the fact that she is starting to swim without a kickboard or a noodle.
Ari and I talked about babies a few weeks ago. She says she would love to have a baby sister and that she would like her name to be Lisa. She said she would need to stop nursing because the baby would need a lot of milk to grow.
Speaking of babies, we have been TTC (trying to conceive) for 15 months. I just started all the testing. Blood work was perfect. I have an HSG tomorrow. It is a test where we find out if there is a blockage in my fallopian tubes.
My hope is to get some answers so that we can make the big decision. Do we keep trying? Do we turn to ART (assisted reproduction technology)? Do we sign up with an adoption agency?
As I told a dear friend the other day, you know how you feel when you're about to go down a really cool looking slide, super excited, but also nervous? That is exactly how I feel right now.
What else? We spent a long weekend in Austin, TX the second week of March. It rained almost the entire time and it was quite cold for Austin. We did get to spend time outside one day. That one day was enough for me to decide I love Austin! It seems like there are many parks/playgrounds surrounded by restaurants. You enjoy your lunch at a picnic table, you get to talk to your friends and your kid gets to play. We got to catch up with our friends and Ari had playmates for days. It was great all around.
Spring break is coming up. No earthly idea what we're doing. Hoping for play dates.
I am currently working on becoming a La Leche League leader. It will take a while, but it will be worth it. I am looking forward to helping out fellow mamas. I remember how helpful and encouraging it was to have support during those early days.
I am also working on starting a family and marital mediation practice. Running my own business is really not my thing. I hate uncertainty. I'd love to just show up to a job and not have to worry about how the business is doing. But... I have a BA in psychology. I don't drive. I don't have an MSW. I got tired of job hunting. And I am very much looking forward to helping families problem solve and hopefully stay together or separate as amicably as possible.
Daddy remains super busy with his five jobs. No, not exaggerating! We do get to have dinner with him most nights and Ari gets to spend time with him on the drive to school every morning and on most nights before bed. And that, to me, is priceless. That is what life is about. When she grows up, she will remember that we had dinner together, that we hugged and played a lot, that her dad is the silliest man on earth, and that we're a team.
I think that is about it for us.
Speaking of nursing, shh, you didn't hear it from me, but I think she may have actually finished weaning herself. I think she hasn't nursed in over a week.
Ari started swimming lessons last December. She has had nine or ten lessons at this point. She loves her lessons, is jumping in the pool, and is starting to swim short distances. She is very proud of the fact that she is starting to swim without a kickboard or a noodle.
Ari and I talked about babies a few weeks ago. She says she would love to have a baby sister and that she would like her name to be Lisa. She said she would need to stop nursing because the baby would need a lot of milk to grow.
Speaking of babies, we have been TTC (trying to conceive) for 15 months. I just started all the testing. Blood work was perfect. I have an HSG tomorrow. It is a test where we find out if there is a blockage in my fallopian tubes.
My hope is to get some answers so that we can make the big decision. Do we keep trying? Do we turn to ART (assisted reproduction technology)? Do we sign up with an adoption agency?
As I told a dear friend the other day, you know how you feel when you're about to go down a really cool looking slide, super excited, but also nervous? That is exactly how I feel right now.
What else? We spent a long weekend in Austin, TX the second week of March. It rained almost the entire time and it was quite cold for Austin. We did get to spend time outside one day. That one day was enough for me to decide I love Austin! It seems like there are many parks/playgrounds surrounded by restaurants. You enjoy your lunch at a picnic table, you get to talk to your friends and your kid gets to play. We got to catch up with our friends and Ari had playmates for days. It was great all around.
Spring break is coming up. No earthly idea what we're doing. Hoping for play dates.
I am currently working on becoming a La Leche League leader. It will take a while, but it will be worth it. I am looking forward to helping out fellow mamas. I remember how helpful and encouraging it was to have support during those early days.
I am also working on starting a family and marital mediation practice. Running my own business is really not my thing. I hate uncertainty. I'd love to just show up to a job and not have to worry about how the business is doing. But... I have a BA in psychology. I don't drive. I don't have an MSW. I got tired of job hunting. And I am very much looking forward to helping families problem solve and hopefully stay together or separate as amicably as possible.
Daddy remains super busy with his five jobs. No, not exaggerating! We do get to have dinner with him most nights and Ari gets to spend time with him on the drive to school every morning and on most nights before bed. And that, to me, is priceless. That is what life is about. When she grows up, she will remember that we had dinner together, that we hugged and played a lot, that her dad is the silliest man on earth, and that we're a team.
I think that is about it for us.
Wednesday, March 28, 2012
Some funny/surprising quotes...
So much to say. I'll start with Miss Ari's latest statements before I forget them.
The other day she wanted to have a sugary cereal for her before bed snack. I'm not a fan of sugary cereals. Basically, we get her Cookie Crisp every now and then as a treat or as a "we're in a hurry, let's go" snack. Needless to say, she wasn't having sugary anything just before bed!
Me: You can have a glass of milk.
Ari: Daddy, she does not control my tummy.
Wait, what? She said what? Sorry, kid, actually, I do, to an extent!
Earlier today, Ari and her cousin, five, were playing.
Ari: Well, if you want, you can marry me.
Cousin: Nah, I'll marry the ball.
I love when they use words as if they know what they're talking about, but they have no clue what they're saying!
Last but not least! Daddy asked Ari and her cousin to clean up. They ran upstairs and, you guessed it, not much of anything got picked up. Daddy decided to grab the toys that weren't picked up and put them in the basement for a day.
Daddy: I picked up the toys. They'll be downstairs for a little while.
Ari: Ah, ok, I don't play with play dough anymore.
Daddy: Oh, then we can give the play dough set to another kid who will use it.
Ari: Or, we can sell it.
So, the idea that she would get the point and clean up tomorrow… Out the window! She didn't give a crap!
And, apparently, the entrepreneurial spirit is hereditary. Big freakin' sigh!!!
The other day she wanted to have a sugary cereal for her before bed snack. I'm not a fan of sugary cereals. Basically, we get her Cookie Crisp every now and then as a treat or as a "we're in a hurry, let's go" snack. Needless to say, she wasn't having sugary anything just before bed!
Me: You can have a glass of milk.
Ari: Daddy, she does not control my tummy.
Wait, what? She said what? Sorry, kid, actually, I do, to an extent!
Earlier today, Ari and her cousin, five, were playing.
Ari: Well, if you want, you can marry me.
Cousin: Nah, I'll marry the ball.
I love when they use words as if they know what they're talking about, but they have no clue what they're saying!
Last but not least! Daddy asked Ari and her cousin to clean up. They ran upstairs and, you guessed it, not much of anything got picked up. Daddy decided to grab the toys that weren't picked up and put them in the basement for a day.
Daddy: I picked up the toys. They'll be downstairs for a little while.
Ari: Ah, ok, I don't play with play dough anymore.
Daddy: Oh, then we can give the play dough set to another kid who will use it.
Ari: Or, we can sell it.
So, the idea that she would get the point and clean up tomorrow… Out the window! She didn't give a crap!
And, apparently, the entrepreneurial spirit is hereditary. Big freakin' sigh!!!
Wednesday, February 29, 2012
All about carseats...
Catching up with my blog feed and I just read this:
http://logicalmommy.blogspot.com/2012/02/few-carseat-psa.html
Carseats are very, very important business. A big thank you to Logical Mommy for putting this together. I can tell it took a lot of time and it's not like parents of three young kids have tons of time to just sit back and do whatever! Thanks, mama. Very well done.
http://logicalmommy.blogspot.com/2012/02/few-carseat-psa.html
Carseats are very, very important business. A big thank you to Logical Mommy for putting this together. I can tell it took a lot of time and it's not like parents of three young kids have tons of time to just sit back and do whatever! Thanks, mama. Very well done.
Wednesday, February 8, 2012
Article: How to Take Care of Yourself Emotionally While Raising Your Child
Last one for today!
http://www.ahaparenting.com/_blog/Parenting_Blog/post/Take_care_of_yourself_emotionally/
http://www.ahaparenting.com/_blog/Parenting_Blog/post/Take_care_of_yourself_emotionally/
Article: Self Care: When Your Child Pushes Your Buttons
I know I've said it so many times, but I have to say it again. Laura at ahaparenting.com writes such wonderful, inspirational parenting articles.
http://www.ahaparenting.com/BlogRetrieve.aspx?PostID=217747&A=SearchResult&SearchID=3448171&ObjectID=217747&ObjectType=55
http://www.ahaparenting.com/BlogRetrieve.aspx?PostID=217747&A=SearchResult&SearchID=3448171&ObjectID=217747&ObjectType=55
Getting crunchier: homemade deodorant
I decided to try it about two months ago. I haven't gone back! I don't think I will go back.
Super simple. Super easy to make. Super cheap. No wondering about the ingredients and what they may do to my body.
There are tons of recipes. This first time I opted to go with the simplest one. Corn starch and baking soda, a one-to-one ratio. Mix. Grab some with your finger tips and apply. That's all there is to it!
Corn starch dries. Baking soda removes odors.
It really does work!
The only con I can think of is that it can be messy because it is a powder. So I do it over the bathroom sink. Problem solved.
I spent a quarter, maybe. I've been using it for about two months and there is enough for another month easy.
Come on, take the plunge! You know you want to!
Super simple. Super easy to make. Super cheap. No wondering about the ingredients and what they may do to my body.
There are tons of recipes. This first time I opted to go with the simplest one. Corn starch and baking soda, a one-to-one ratio. Mix. Grab some with your finger tips and apply. That's all there is to it!
Corn starch dries. Baking soda removes odors.
It really does work!
The only con I can think of is that it can be messy because it is a powder. So I do it over the bathroom sink. Problem solved.
I spent a quarter, maybe. I've been using it for about two months and there is enough for another month easy.
Come on, take the plunge! You know you want to!
Tuesday, February 7, 2012
Article: Inflammatory Breast Cancer
Please read this one. No lumps. Very aggressive cancer. Please read and remember the signs.
http://toddlerplanet.wordpress.com/2007/07/23/inflammatory-breast-cancer/
The author passed away yesterday:
http://toddlerplanet.wordpress.com/2012/02/06/goodbye/
I didn't know her. Didn't know her blog until yesterday. But I can't stop the tears. I keep thinking about her little boys, one of them born in 2007, just like my Ari. I keep thinking about her husband. I keep thinking about what she must have gone through, knowing that her time with her family was so limitted.
One of Ari's teachers was recently diagnosed with lung cancer. This horrible disease... It is everywhere. It shows up, out of the blue, and takes over people's lives.
The teacher at Ari's school is receiving lots of drawings from the little ones, cards from the parents, support from the staff. A few of us moms from her classroom are now collecting gift cards so that she can get whatever she needs.
It is beautiful to see all the love, all the families trying to help. But it is so sad. So many thoughts. So many questions. How is she doing? How is it looking, i.e., what stage? Will she come back? I so hope she can. I so wish we could do so much more than send her gift cards.
Pardon my French, but cancer is an asshole and I so wish we were a lot closer to finding cures. I wish people were doing more than talking about the color of their bra. I wish more people knew that some nutrients apparently do manage to help shrink tumors. If it is true that some nutrients are so effective, I wish oncologists were combining chemo and alternative medicine more often.
There is wishing and there is doing. What you can do:
Give blood.
Give platelets.
Donate your hair.
Donate money to a cancer research group.
Donate your time at an oncology unit.
http://toddlerplanet.wordpress.com/2007/07/23/inflammatory-breast-cancer/
The author passed away yesterday:
http://toddlerplanet.wordpress.com/2012/02/06/goodbye/
I didn't know her. Didn't know her blog until yesterday. But I can't stop the tears. I keep thinking about her little boys, one of them born in 2007, just like my Ari. I keep thinking about her husband. I keep thinking about what she must have gone through, knowing that her time with her family was so limitted.
One of Ari's teachers was recently diagnosed with lung cancer. This horrible disease... It is everywhere. It shows up, out of the blue, and takes over people's lives.
The teacher at Ari's school is receiving lots of drawings from the little ones, cards from the parents, support from the staff. A few of us moms from her classroom are now collecting gift cards so that she can get whatever she needs.
It is beautiful to see all the love, all the families trying to help. But it is so sad. So many thoughts. So many questions. How is she doing? How is it looking, i.e., what stage? Will she come back? I so hope she can. I so wish we could do so much more than send her gift cards.
Pardon my French, but cancer is an asshole and I so wish we were a lot closer to finding cures. I wish people were doing more than talking about the color of their bra. I wish more people knew that some nutrients apparently do manage to help shrink tumors. If it is true that some nutrients are so effective, I wish oncologists were combining chemo and alternative medicine more often.
There is wishing and there is doing. What you can do:
Give blood.
Give platelets.
Donate your hair.
Donate money to a cancer research group.
Donate your time at an oncology unit.
Thursday, January 12, 2012
Article: Making the Switch to Reusable Menstrual Products
Guys, you may want to skip this one!
Ladies, here is a very thorough article on reusable menstrual products.
http://naturalparentsnetwork.com/reusable-menstrual-products/
I haven't tried many of the options she lists. Definitely not doing the free bleeding thing, thanks! I may or may not try cloth pads. I keep going back and forth about it. Basically, I've felt funny about it and have wondered how messy the process is. But I did cloth diapers for years, so what is the big deal?! I guess it comes down to this: I'm ok with tiny amounts of baby poop being in my washer but not ok with my own blood being in there. See how ridiculous that sounds?! But I'm certain I'm not the only one who feels this way!
I have some experience with the Diva Cup. It works very well for me in that it really does catch everything if you insert it properly. I have a hard time inserting it and removing it occasionally. There have been times when it just doesn't feel comfortable. Sometimes it hurts while I am pulling it out. My guess is that I need more practice. If I could see the diagrams/pictures it would probably be easier.
Overall, I like many aspects of it. But I grow impatient when I have cramps from hell and it takes a couple tries before I feel comfortable. That being said, I'll keep trying because I like the idea of using something reusable.
Ladies, here is a very thorough article on reusable menstrual products.
http://naturalparentsnetwork.com/reusable-menstrual-products/
I haven't tried many of the options she lists. Definitely not doing the free bleeding thing, thanks! I may or may not try cloth pads. I keep going back and forth about it. Basically, I've felt funny about it and have wondered how messy the process is. But I did cloth diapers for years, so what is the big deal?! I guess it comes down to this: I'm ok with tiny amounts of baby poop being in my washer but not ok with my own blood being in there. See how ridiculous that sounds?! But I'm certain I'm not the only one who feels this way!
I have some experience with the Diva Cup. It works very well for me in that it really does catch everything if you insert it properly. I have a hard time inserting it and removing it occasionally. There have been times when it just doesn't feel comfortable. Sometimes it hurts while I am pulling it out. My guess is that I need more practice. If I could see the diagrams/pictures it would probably be easier.
Overall, I like many aspects of it. But I grow impatient when I have cramps from hell and it takes a couple tries before I feel comfortable. That being said, I'll keep trying because I like the idea of using something reusable.
Wednesday, January 11, 2012
On Being Aware of Being an Only Child
Just earlier today I emailed a friend one of our typical updates. In the email I mentioned that we've hit the one year mark. We've now been trying to get pregnant for a year, that is. Now, if you've been reading my blog, you know there has been serious ambivalence from time to time. We've had many conversations and we've decided to keep trying. The great thing is that I am feeling ok about it. I tend to get anxious about things. So I welcome this very positive change.
All that being said, I just had a moment, one of those moments where, just for a minute, you feel sad and you wish you could get away from your kid and have a little cry.
"Mommy, their house is funner than ours. There are three kids. There are kids I can play with. Here there is only one kid."
I don't think Ari is thinking about having a sibling all the time. As a matter of fact, this is the first time ever she has made a comment about being an only child. Maybe it was just her way of trying to talk me into letting her go next door for some playtime with the three kids over there. Or, perhaps, she is finally aware of it and she has an opinion. My guess is that it was a random comment.
Part of me believes in being honest and talking about things, that, perhaps, we should talk about being a family of three and how that may or may not change. Part of me rathers not mention it because, frankly, what is the point? What am I going to tell her? Mommy would like to have another baby. How about you? Oh, by the way, we're trying and it's just not happening. You came to us easily and, this time, I just don't know what is going on.
Thus far, I've decided that if she brings it up, I am more than happy to talk about it, but I'm not going to bring it up myself. I just don't see the point right now.
Since I brought up the topic, I'll share a quick update. Right now, we have no idea what is going on. I have wondered if it has anything to do with me being overweight. The GYN doesn't think so. We can do some blood work and go from there. Daddy just got a new job. I'm thinking we'll wait for our new health insurance to kick in and then I'll do the blood work. If we did it now we'd be paying out of pocket for all the tests. No, thank you. I'll keep working on getting me at a healthier weight. We'll test in a month or two. And, we'll go from there.
I still think about adoption, but we don't have the resources to do a private domestic or international adoption. I have some reservations about adopting through DCF.
There you have it. That is where we are. Now, off to snuggle with my sweet baby, or not baby, girl!
All that being said, I just had a moment, one of those moments where, just for a minute, you feel sad and you wish you could get away from your kid and have a little cry.
"Mommy, their house is funner than ours. There are three kids. There are kids I can play with. Here there is only one kid."
I don't think Ari is thinking about having a sibling all the time. As a matter of fact, this is the first time ever she has made a comment about being an only child. Maybe it was just her way of trying to talk me into letting her go next door for some playtime with the three kids over there. Or, perhaps, she is finally aware of it and she has an opinion. My guess is that it was a random comment.
Part of me believes in being honest and talking about things, that, perhaps, we should talk about being a family of three and how that may or may not change. Part of me rathers not mention it because, frankly, what is the point? What am I going to tell her? Mommy would like to have another baby. How about you? Oh, by the way, we're trying and it's just not happening. You came to us easily and, this time, I just don't know what is going on.
Thus far, I've decided that if she brings it up, I am more than happy to talk about it, but I'm not going to bring it up myself. I just don't see the point right now.
Since I brought up the topic, I'll share a quick update. Right now, we have no idea what is going on. I have wondered if it has anything to do with me being overweight. The GYN doesn't think so. We can do some blood work and go from there. Daddy just got a new job. I'm thinking we'll wait for our new health insurance to kick in and then I'll do the blood work. If we did it now we'd be paying out of pocket for all the tests. No, thank you. I'll keep working on getting me at a healthier weight. We'll test in a month or two. And, we'll go from there.
I still think about adoption, but we don't have the resources to do a private domestic or international adoption. I have some reservations about adopting through DCF.
There you have it. That is where we are. Now, off to snuggle with my sweet baby, or not baby, girl!
Questions for Potential Babysitter
We have been lucky thus far. Grandma has always been our babysitter. But it's time. I have posted on the local college job website. I got the first email from a potential sitter this morning.
So, what the heck do I ask someone who I don't know but who may be spending a few hours with my child a few times a month?
And, how do I put my mommy anxiety on the side and keep moving forward with this? We've done this before, in a sense. Ari spends six hours a day with three teachers who were once strangers. But, somehow, that feels different. This one person will be in our home, alone with my child. Call it ridiculous, but it makes me feel a bit nervous.
Moving on… What would you ask this person? Help me out, please!
So, what the heck do I ask someone who I don't know but who may be spending a few hours with my child a few times a month?
And, how do I put my mommy anxiety on the side and keep moving forward with this? We've done this before, in a sense. Ari spends six hours a day with three teachers who were once strangers. But, somehow, that feels different. This one person will be in our home, alone with my child. Call it ridiculous, but it makes me feel a bit nervous.
Moving on… What would you ask this person? Help me out, please!
Saturday, December 31, 2011
Christmas 2011
Where to start? Basically, we had a simple, enjoyable Christmas. I kept reminding myself that what matters is spending time with family. Presents and attempting to create the picture perfect holiday can be a lot of fun but can also be incredibly stressful. When I am stressed out, frankly, it’s easy to become the bitchy wife/mama. So, for us, simple is better. Here are the highlights, in no particular order:
Grandma and I put up a 4’ Christmas tree for Ari. She has really looked forward to it the past two years.
Ari helped me with gift wrapping. In other words, I did all the cutting and wrapping and she was in charge of the tape and of placing wrapped presents under the tree. It took quite a while. I’m slow at these things, poor eye sight and all, and adding a cute little one to the process made it take even longer. But it was nice quality time and it was a lot easier than last year. This time I can sincerely say she was helpful.
I decided to try something different this year and went for silly when it came time to give our relatives presents. Examples: my sister got a mango in a tiny gift bag. My mother’s boyfriend, who is always grabbing my fruit, got a fruit basket wrapped in snowmen wrapping paper!
We had dinner with my family on Christmas Eve. The kids got to open presents. Many photos were taken. I was picked on incessantly for my new haircut. We’re long hair people and so me having chin-length hair is just weird for the girls in my family. I told them to go give theirs to Wigs for Kids too and to shut the hell up, because, really, it was getting old!
My mother gave Ari a cardboard castle, among other things, which Ari absolutely loves. She now eats and will even watch TV from her castle. Silly kid! She is enjoying painting her castle. I am wondering how long the castle will be around for!
On Christmas day, we drove down to see my in-laws. Ari got to exchange presents with her grandparents, and, most fun of all, she got to decorate ginger bread cookies with Nana.
Another highlight for Ari was staying at a hotel. We stayed at a hotel with an indoor swimming pool this time. Nana joined us for a morning swim on the 26th. Nana and Ari had a blast and daddy and I enjoy a pool every now and then. It’s relaxing.
Hotel funny: as we walk in, Ari is incredibly tired, resting her head on Daddy’s shoulder. Once we walk into the room, suddenly, she is wide awake, super excited, jumping from bed to bed for a good half an hour. The area between the two beds was the muddy mud pit, she reported. Silly child!
We got to see Daddy’s 82-year-old grandma on the 26th. She made his favorite Italian cookies, some Sinnamon thingies. No idea what they’re called. She also made a bunch other different types of cookies and Ari was in heaven. As if that wasn’t enough, Ari was sent home with another dozen cookies! Sadly, Ari is down to one cookie per day. Mean mom and dad!
Here are links to what we got Ari for Christmas.
Magna-tyles:
http://www.amazon.com/Magna-Tiles-48-Piece-Set/dp/B000JKRU5Y
The cool thing about magna-tyles is that the three of us love them! I’m talking we never get bored when she wants to build with us! Talk about an ideal present!
The GreenStart Under the Sea floor puzzle:
http://www.kangarooboo.com/product/details/2485-Innovative-Kids-Green-Start-Giant-Floor-Puzzle-Under-the-Sea
And the Green Start Number Hunt floor puzzle:
http://www.kangarooboo.com/product/details/2920-Innovative-Kids-Green-Start-Giant-Floor-Puzzle-Number-Hunt
Oh and then there is that tiny, cheap present that, originally, was Daddy’s, but we all know it’s Ari’s and Daddy’s now: the iPad II. Actually, we’re calling it a family present. I don’t use it, but it buys me some time when I need it most. Ari plays educational games on it, watches Netflix, takes pictures of whatever she builds with the Magna-tyles, and she Skypes with Nana. We’re finding that the iPad is a great thing to have when we’re traveling or when we’re incredibly exhausted but she isn’t. And Daddy gets to do all sorts of grownup stuff on it, of course.
I hope your holidays were enjoyable and as low stress as possible!
Grandma and I put up a 4’ Christmas tree for Ari. She has really looked forward to it the past two years.
Ari helped me with gift wrapping. In other words, I did all the cutting and wrapping and she was in charge of the tape and of placing wrapped presents under the tree. It took quite a while. I’m slow at these things, poor eye sight and all, and adding a cute little one to the process made it take even longer. But it was nice quality time and it was a lot easier than last year. This time I can sincerely say she was helpful.
I decided to try something different this year and went for silly when it came time to give our relatives presents. Examples: my sister got a mango in a tiny gift bag. My mother’s boyfriend, who is always grabbing my fruit, got a fruit basket wrapped in snowmen wrapping paper!
We had dinner with my family on Christmas Eve. The kids got to open presents. Many photos were taken. I was picked on incessantly for my new haircut. We’re long hair people and so me having chin-length hair is just weird for the girls in my family. I told them to go give theirs to Wigs for Kids too and to shut the hell up, because, really, it was getting old!
My mother gave Ari a cardboard castle, among other things, which Ari absolutely loves. She now eats and will even watch TV from her castle. Silly kid! She is enjoying painting her castle. I am wondering how long the castle will be around for!
On Christmas day, we drove down to see my in-laws. Ari got to exchange presents with her grandparents, and, most fun of all, she got to decorate ginger bread cookies with Nana.
Another highlight for Ari was staying at a hotel. We stayed at a hotel with an indoor swimming pool this time. Nana joined us for a morning swim on the 26th. Nana and Ari had a blast and daddy and I enjoy a pool every now and then. It’s relaxing.
Hotel funny: as we walk in, Ari is incredibly tired, resting her head on Daddy’s shoulder. Once we walk into the room, suddenly, she is wide awake, super excited, jumping from bed to bed for a good half an hour. The area between the two beds was the muddy mud pit, she reported. Silly child!
We got to see Daddy’s 82-year-old grandma on the 26th. She made his favorite Italian cookies, some Sinnamon thingies. No idea what they’re called. She also made a bunch other different types of cookies and Ari was in heaven. As if that wasn’t enough, Ari was sent home with another dozen cookies! Sadly, Ari is down to one cookie per day. Mean mom and dad!
Here are links to what we got Ari for Christmas.
Magna-tyles:
http://www.amazon.com/Magna-Tiles-48-Piece-Set/dp/B000JKRU5Y
The cool thing about magna-tyles is that the three of us love them! I’m talking we never get bored when she wants to build with us! Talk about an ideal present!
The GreenStart Under the Sea floor puzzle:
http://www.kangarooboo.com/product/details/2485-Innovative-Kids-Green-Start-Giant-Floor-Puzzle-Under-the-Sea
And the Green Start Number Hunt floor puzzle:
http://www.kangarooboo.com/product/details/2920-Innovative-Kids-Green-Start-Giant-Floor-Puzzle-Number-Hunt
Oh and then there is that tiny, cheap present that, originally, was Daddy’s, but we all know it’s Ari’s and Daddy’s now: the iPad II. Actually, we’re calling it a family present. I don’t use it, but it buys me some time when I need it most. Ari plays educational games on it, watches Netflix, takes pictures of whatever she builds with the Magna-tyles, and she Skypes with Nana. We’re finding that the iPad is a great thing to have when we’re traveling or when we’re incredibly exhausted but she isn’t. And Daddy gets to do all sorts of grownup stuff on it, of course.
I hope your holidays were enjoyable and as low stress as possible!
Thursday, December 29, 2011
All about healthy carbs!
We're big fans of carbs over here! We love white flour, breads, cakes, pasta, you name it. But I am aware that less is better and that whole grains are the way to go, of course. So, here I am, trying new grains on all of us, seeing what we like, what our sometimes picky taste buds tolerate!
Here is what I have tried during the past few months:
We (as in Ari and I) have been eating whole wheat pasta for a long time now.
Ari and Daddy don't care for brown rice, so I don't make it often.
whole wheat and coconut flour buttermilk pancakes
oatmeal chocolate chip muffins (oats and whole wheat flour)
waffles (half of the flour whole wheat and half white flour)
zucchini bread (2/3 whole wheat flour, 1/3 white flour)
carrot cake (half whole wheat flour, half white flour)
chocolate cake (quinoa, no flour whatsoever)
What I've learned thus far:
We don't care for the taste of whole wheat flour. So I add extra vanilla/sugar to make it tolerable.
I am experimenting with coconut flour, but that is a whole other learning process. You can't use too much of it in a recipe. It absorbs a lot of fluid. You must add additional fluids. Let's just say that you can ruin a recipe very easily!
This has and continues to be quite the learning process. But I keep on trying because it is totally worth it. Next? Will probably try almond flour. Will continue to research/try different whole grain flours in the hopes that we can stay away from the yucky whole wheat flour taste! If you have any tips, please feel free to share!
Here is what I have tried during the past few months:
We (as in Ari and I) have been eating whole wheat pasta for a long time now.
Ari and Daddy don't care for brown rice, so I don't make it often.
whole wheat and coconut flour buttermilk pancakes
oatmeal chocolate chip muffins (oats and whole wheat flour)
waffles (half of the flour whole wheat and half white flour)
zucchini bread (2/3 whole wheat flour, 1/3 white flour)
carrot cake (half whole wheat flour, half white flour)
chocolate cake (quinoa, no flour whatsoever)
What I've learned thus far:
We don't care for the taste of whole wheat flour. So I add extra vanilla/sugar to make it tolerable.
I am experimenting with coconut flour, but that is a whole other learning process. You can't use too much of it in a recipe. It absorbs a lot of fluid. You must add additional fluids. Let's just say that you can ruin a recipe very easily!
This has and continues to be quite the learning process. But I keep on trying because it is totally worth it. Next? Will probably try almond flour. Will continue to research/try different whole grain flours in the hopes that we can stay away from the yucky whole wheat flour taste! If you have any tips, please feel free to share!
Dentist Appointments and Dental X-rays
I debated when the right timing for the first dentist appointment would be. I waited until it seemed like Ari would feel comfortable. So many people get incredibly anxious about seeing a dentist. I figured let's try to have positive experiences so that when she is a grownup, hopefully, she will feel at ease and will take care of her health. We brush, floss, etc. and her teeth seemed fine, so I opted not to rush it.
Ari's first appointment was in June. At that appointment, she learned about brushing properly and she learned about some of the tools dentists use. The hygienist and the dentist took a peak at her teeth. She got to pick a toy at the end. That was it.
Six months later, last week, was Ari's first official dentist appointment. Her teeth were cleaned, polished, flossed, etc. The dentist did the 3-minute exam. Crunchy Mama, i.e., me, turned down the x-ray.
My after thoughts:
Ari was very comfortable throughout the entire appointment both times. She was very excited to go to the dentist, particularly the second time, as a matter of fact.
I'll insert a funny here. Daddy had to wake Ari up so we would get to the appointment ontime. It was a slow process. Once he reminded her about the dentist, she got up instantly and talked about how she would be getting a new tooth brush. Whatever works, kid! You'd think we never buy her new tooth brushes!
Back to timing, I like to think that us preparing her for it, talking about it in a casual manner the day before was helpful. Also, there is a DVD where Elmo goes to his pediatrician that Ari loves to watch every now and then. I remember the first time she watched it. It made her remember her ear infection last March. It raised some questions about her upcoming (at the time) 4-year-old checkup and vaccines. All in all, Elmo's trip to the pediatrician was a very positive addition to our family!
Going back to the dentist appointments, I think the way the first appointment was run, with very low expectations, was very crafty. I think the appointments ought to be closer together, as opposed to the six months they recommended. Little kids remember a lot of things. But, Ari didn't remember too much about it. If I was to do it again, I may request that the appointments are only a month apart or so.
My last thought has to do with x-rays. The dentist and the hygienist recommended an x-ray. It felt like the dentist was pushing it a fair bit. I asked about their reasoning for it. Their response was that the x-ray would let them see how her adult teeth are developing, if they're all there, etc. My thought: ok, then what? What are the odds that a tooth is not developing well or that a tooth is missing? Why expose my child? If a tooth was, indeed, not developing properly or missing, what could we or would we do about it now? I didn't get a convincing answer, so I said we would discuss it again next June.
What do you think? Have you been offered this x-ray for your children? Have you learned anything about these x-rays that made you think you really ought to consent to doing them? Any websites or articles you would like to share? I will be researching this, but, seeing as how the appointment is not until June, it's just not high priority right now. Ari is home and so computer time is limitted until next week!
Ari's first appointment was in June. At that appointment, she learned about brushing properly and she learned about some of the tools dentists use. The hygienist and the dentist took a peak at her teeth. She got to pick a toy at the end. That was it.
Six months later, last week, was Ari's first official dentist appointment. Her teeth were cleaned, polished, flossed, etc. The dentist did the 3-minute exam. Crunchy Mama, i.e., me, turned down the x-ray.
My after thoughts:
Ari was very comfortable throughout the entire appointment both times. She was very excited to go to the dentist, particularly the second time, as a matter of fact.
I'll insert a funny here. Daddy had to wake Ari up so we would get to the appointment ontime. It was a slow process. Once he reminded her about the dentist, she got up instantly and talked about how she would be getting a new tooth brush. Whatever works, kid! You'd think we never buy her new tooth brushes!
Back to timing, I like to think that us preparing her for it, talking about it in a casual manner the day before was helpful. Also, there is a DVD where Elmo goes to his pediatrician that Ari loves to watch every now and then. I remember the first time she watched it. It made her remember her ear infection last March. It raised some questions about her upcoming (at the time) 4-year-old checkup and vaccines. All in all, Elmo's trip to the pediatrician was a very positive addition to our family!
Going back to the dentist appointments, I think the way the first appointment was run, with very low expectations, was very crafty. I think the appointments ought to be closer together, as opposed to the six months they recommended. Little kids remember a lot of things. But, Ari didn't remember too much about it. If I was to do it again, I may request that the appointments are only a month apart or so.
My last thought has to do with x-rays. The dentist and the hygienist recommended an x-ray. It felt like the dentist was pushing it a fair bit. I asked about their reasoning for it. Their response was that the x-ray would let them see how her adult teeth are developing, if they're all there, etc. My thought: ok, then what? What are the odds that a tooth is not developing well or that a tooth is missing? Why expose my child? If a tooth was, indeed, not developing properly or missing, what could we or would we do about it now? I didn't get a convincing answer, so I said we would discuss it again next June.
What do you think? Have you been offered this x-ray for your children? Have you learned anything about these x-rays that made you think you really ought to consent to doing them? Any websites or articles you would like to share? I will be researching this, but, seeing as how the appointment is not until June, it's just not high priority right now. Ari is home and so computer time is limitted until next week!
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