Sunday, November 29, 2009

My child is a nudist.

Amor Chiquito has been able to take all her clothes off for almost a year now. She used to do that a lot when we first started putting her in her crib at 13 months. After a while, she stopped doing it.

Once Amor Chiquito began using the potty consistently, her nudist tendencies returned! She just loves being naked. I don’t know how else to put it! She is often only wearing a shirt, or socks, or simply nothing. The funny thing is that when we tell her we are going to put a shirt on, she complains about the shirt being cold! Kids…!

Personally, her being naked does not bother me, as long as it is just us, obviously. I do want her dressed if we are at someone else’s home or if we have guests, of course.

It is my job to teach her that some behaviors are acceptable in certain settings but not others. From what I have read, this is a controversial topic. Some parents think it is a non-issue; others feel strongly that a child being naked at home is a bad thing. To be honest, I am torn on what I should be telling her about this.

I am curious. How do you feel about this? If you have kids, do they do this? Is it common? Let’s have a conversation, so to speak, about a controversial topic. I am confident that we, as grown-ups, can do this respectfully. If someone gets a little crazy, there is always the delete button!

Something else I have noticed is that Amor Chiquito does a great job going to the potty if she is naked from the waist down or if she is wearing only underwear. If she is wearing pants, she has accidents almost all the time. Any experiences with this? Is there an explanation for it? It is only a matter of time, is my guess.

My goal is to help her get better about this, but, in the meantime, I started buying dresses! They proved particularly useful when we spent the weekend with the in-laws. Amor Chiquito was dressed and did not have accidents.

2 comments:

  1. As a 20+ year nudist, I want to tell you that you are doing a great job as a parent of a nudist chid. In my expereince I have found that nudist children grow up fine. In fact they are very sel-assured, and well behaved, and the don't have the body issues that plauge most young people these days. I would encourage you to take her to a nude or clothing optonal beach and or campground, there she will meet other nudist kids.

    If you really want to embarass her (in a fub way) you should take photos of your nudist and put them on your blog for people to enjoy, some other parents do that.

    Good Luck

    Albert

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  2. I would like to echo Albert's comments about naturist children growing up with confidence. Your attitude sound just right, so don't worry. The most important thing is not to teach a child to be ashamed of their body as that is what destroys confidence and can lead to problems later in life (teenage) such as eating disorders. Far too many parents do this in their efforts to dress their little 'naturists'.

    She will grow out of it in time due to the natural pressures she will feel to conform with those around her. Children are natural mimics, so she will make up her own mind that she wants to be dressed like mum / older sister / friend. Far better that way than drumming it into her by using body-shame...

    Your solution of buying her dresses sounds like a good one (now what would you do for a boy? mmm...)

    I would not take Albert's advice about embarassing her with photo's on the web, but nothing wrong with some in the family album!

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